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When you hit it off with someone new, it is incredibly tempting to move at a fast pace. It’s natural to want more and more time together, while needing to consciously remind yourself to slow down your roll a bit! The question of when to become sexually involved becomes important to answer as sexual behavior has a huge effect on your dynamic and growing relationship. While there is no perfect answer for every single person/new couple, leading with sex early on in dating is associated with greater risk of your relationship never taking off. Often the emotional connection fizzles and stops growing if sex occurs too early, and becomes your primary focus because good sex (and good sex alone) is not the means to a long-lasting and loving relationship. If you want more than a sexual relationship, you must be willing to invest time and energy into getting to know each other outside of the bedroom. It serves you well to spend time outside of the bedroom to establish a solid foundation with ...

While picking out a restaurant or a bar for a  first dateis stressful enough, understanding how women kiss and how they want to be kissed provides is enough to raise your heart rate. From how to know when she’s ready to understand how women kissing are different than men locking lips, the best first kiss advice is to read the room. If you’re not sure if you’re smooching the right way or falling short, let this guide on everything you need to know about women kissing and kissing women to sweep the next gal off her feet: The Facts On Kissing Ever wonder how women kiss and how men kiss? Or how many people they pucker up to? What about what they prefer and what they hate? Or how to get a girl to kiss you? These questions are all normal—and trust us, a consideration nearly everyone has. Kissing is a near universal phenomenon occurring between sexual and/or romantic partners in more than 90 percent of human cultures. While almost everyone kisses there is very little information around ...

Before we dive into specifics, the most important lesson is to understand what constitutes “game-playing.” At root, game-playing is about saying one thing but doing another. People who play games “talk,” but their “walk” simply doesn’t match. In essence, they can’t really be trusted because their words are often just that: words. Let’s review in greater detail some of the signs that someone you like is actually playing games with you. They talk about plans, but they don’t follow up to solidify them. I know you know what I’m talking about because it has happened to each one of us. Perhaps she suggested a concert or a dinner, but she doesn’t commit to any specifics; maybe he mentions a party or an activity he’d like to try with you, but he avoids discussing a date or time. They break plans at the last minute, or come up with excuses when it comes time to commit. Few things are more annoying that someone breaking plans or coming up with excuses about why they can’t follow through on plans...

  After reading the title of this article, you instantly know who I’m talking about. The so-called life of the party exists in every town and city across the globe, and a few characteristics neatly define them. The life of the party: always looks fun, upbeat and happy; is gregarious and has social skills that could put a senator to shame; is extroverted and craves social interaction with groups; and is often both physically and emotionally appealing on the surface. Given this constellation of traits and behaviors, what’s it like to date the life of the party? Moreover, what’s it like to have a long-term monogamous relationshipwith said person? If the answer were a headline in a newspaper (remember those?), it would read “Definite Costs and Benefits.” In other words, there are major advantages and disadvantages to dating the life of the party, and I’ll give comprehensive examples of both. The advantages of dating the life of the party Their social skills are exceptional. If th...

  After dedicating your time searching and fielding through profiles, you finally had an online witty conversation with a possible-match and you’re ready to take your could-be relationship offline. It’s true that first dates can be one of the most nerve-wracking, anxiety-producing situations in our society. Sometimes they lead to burning love sometimes they go down in flames. Even so, there’s nothing quite like the anticipation for the initial meet-and-greet. And while you shouldn’t prescribe too many expectations before happy hour, a bit of prep work is recommended. As dating experts agree, having a slew of good first date questions can be an easy way to maintain your banter and continue a conversation. While, sure, you know the ole’ trusty basics, what about the captivating and interesting queries that really get to the heart of your date? The key to having a positive experience is relaxed conversation, and that can be helped along with some well-chosen first...

  The first month of dating is an exciting one. And in that excitement, it’s easy to jump ahead and make some big dating mistakes. Here are nine things to avoid doing in the first month of dating: 1. Make plans for the distant future. Here’s a rule you can steal from “How I Met Your Mother”: “Never make plans with a date further in the future than the amount of time you’ve been going out.” Of course, in non-sitcom land, this rule gets voided once you’re in a serious, committed relationship — otherwise, no one could ever make marriage vows — but in the first month of dating, keep plans for the future at a minimum. This should be a no-pressure time to get to know one another. 2. Use the “L” word. You might be falling for Mr. Right, but don’t drop the “love” bomb just yet. Keep your date from getting overwhelmed — and guard your own heart — by taking things slow. There’s plenty of time for love talk. In the meantime, just keep things at “like” and reassure your date that you’re inter...

  There’s no denying that first dates can be awkward. Knowing that you are both coming on the date to evaluate your level of attraction and potential interest in each other as partners can lead to pressure and stress, which then in turn may create awkwardness. Unfortunately the more pressure you put on the date, the more awkward and tense it may become. Feeling awkward can present a barrier to intimacy and connection. If you are in your head worrying about being liked or fearing that you won’t be, you will naturally be distracted from being present with your date and it will be hard to relax. It is important to understand that nerves are a normal part of dating and what matters most is how you handle them. You can date more mindfully by shifting your focus to connecting in the moment instead of fixating on what your date thinks of you. By focusing on enjoying the interaction, being open, and building a bond with your date, you can do your part to take the pressure off. You can also...

  For most men, falling in lust is rather instant: you see a beautiful woman with a captivating aura and you decide you have to talk to her. The only issue of course, is knowing how to approach a girl – and once you do, how to make her fall in love. There’s no magical rhyme or reason that dictates why or how two people should build a relationship together, but there are some mistakes men make along the way that could persuade her away from you. Much like you can be initially interested in someone and their actions dissuade you from continuing after a few days, how to make a woman fall in love depends wholeheartedly on the ways you treat her in the beginning stages of dating. From your date ideas to how you stay in communication, take these tips from experts on how to make a woman love you: 1. Start – and continue – a great conversation Approaching a girl is a tricky situation for most men since they don’t want to come on too hard, too soon. But, it can be rather simp...

The road to a fulfilling, enduring relationship is almost always littered with a few attempts that turned out to be unfulfilling and unenduring. That’s what dating is all about: finding out if two people have the qualities and compatibility to sustain a relationship over the long haul. Sometimes you don’t have to question whether you have good reasons to break up —you just know it’s time. But other times you’re not so sure. You find yourself wondering, ‘should I break up with him (or her)?’ ‘Should I hang in there and give it a chance?’ or ‘Should I move on so I don’t squander precious time and energy?’ What are the right reasons to break up with someone you once cared deeply about? You’re at a crossroads, trying to decide what to do, working hard at make sense in your own head about what you want. Feelings are our gauge of well-being. When we feel negative emotion—sad, discouraged, uptight, frustrated, angry, or dissatisfied— we can know instantaneously that something isn’t right....